“We worry about what a child will become tomorrow, yet we forget that he is someone today.”
–quote by Stacia Tauscher; dancer + artist
I was thinking this morning about our kids.
The world tells us so many lies about kids. Kids are a distraction. They are messy. They don’t know anything. We are pitied for having them.
I don’t know how often I get the phrase “You’ve got your hands full, don’t you?” This comment undoubtedly comes from someone in a public place who knows nothing about me at all. My response recently has been “Oh but my heart is so much fuller.” My children literally fill my hands, but they bring so much joy and life to my soul that I would never have experienced without them. I consider it a privelidge that God chose me as their Mama, to love, guide, and teach them. They are truly a reward.
In American society, there is this belief that children are somehow less than adults. That kids are maybe less capable of fill in the blank. I do not believe this to be true. Jesus didn’t either. He wanted the children to come to Him. He said they had greater faith than anyone.
Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity. 1 Timothy 4:12 (ESV)
I love what Charlotte Mason believed: “Children are born persons.”
We often say that we are molding our children into good human beings. Or we are growing tiny humans. But it’s easy to forget that they are already a person. A whole human being who doesn’t need anything more added to become a person. They already are. We are simply shaping their minds and hearts, teaching them all that we know while we are surrounding them with love & showing them Jesus.
Biblical truth about our children is exemplified in Psalm 127. We are reminded that children are a reward from the Lord. In one translation, the phrase “fruit from the womb” is used to describe children.
Fruit is used a lot in the bible.
James 3:17 refers to a wise man as full of good fruit.
Pslam 1:3 says to be like a tree planted by the water, yielding fruit in it’s season.
Matthew 12:33 talks about tree (man) either having good fruit or bad fruit.
Galatians 5:22-23 tells the Fruits of the Spirit: Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Faithfulness, Gentleness and Self-Control .
Typically, fruit is meant to represent the good that we are able to produce when we choose to abide in Him and let Him abide in us. Children are a good fruit rewarded to us from God. It doesn’t matter whether you were given your children biologically, through adoption, or through mothering of other people’s children, these children were given to you as a reward from God.
This verse tells us that children are like arrows in our quiver.
When someone is about to shoot an arrow, they must do several things to prepare. Determine the target; the place where you want the arrow to go. Care for and ready your bow, your arrows and yourself too. When it is time to shoot, you have carefully worked to ensure that the arrow will go straight and it will hit the target.
The analogy can be made for mothering or parenting children. We must first determine where we want them to go. What is the goal? The goal is for them to know and love God and to love and serve others. Everything else is just a preference. As we guide and teach them, love them and show them the way, we are preparing them for the day when we must release them.
Releasing them into this world is scary. But when we have done all of the work to ready our “arrows,” we can be confident that, when released, they will glide on a straight path, toward the goal.
“To bring the human race, family by family, child by child, out of the savage and inhuman desolation where He is not, into the light and warmth and comfort of the presence of God, is, no doubt, the chief thing we have to do in the world.” – Charlotte Mason
Mamahood is no easy feat. It is hard. Every. Single. Day.
Kids don’t sleep. If you have one that does, likely the next one won’t. They will nurse all hours of the day and night. They will talk back to you. They will break things. Drinks will be spilt. Clothes will be dirty.
But your heart will be oh so full.
We must keep our eyes on the goal. We must remember always that God has gifted these children to us and they are good. He loves them more than we could ever love them. He has given them to us for a time, so that we can disciple them and point them toward the main target… Him.
Don’t let the lies the world tells you distract you.
And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9 (ESV)
We can’t grow weary. We can’t give up. Everything we do, whether anyone sees or not, is all for Jesus. When we continue to teach our children despite everything, it is for God’s glory. When we wash the sink full of dishes…again…it is for God’s glory.
In this “want it now, get it now” society, we expect that we will reap a harvest in the same season in which we are planting. But this is a lie. We are planting seeds in our children’s hearts. We are tenderly caring for them, giving them just what they need, each and every day. And, eventually, we will reap the harvest, if we do not give up.
Mama, I see you. You are not alone. Don’t give up.
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